ah, my prized possession. my favorite child. my dream.
i had little threads pulling me a certain way over the years of living at other peoples weddings. i really wasnt the girl to *plan* my wedding ahead of time but i always knew in the back of my head…its gonna not be in america and its not gonna be one day. the one thing i did do in advance was find the venue/house/dream land. one a girls trip with Tonhya, she was off shooting a wedding and i was in a tiny nothing town – so naturally, i spent the day watching E! and searching for some amazing location basically anywhere in the southern half of our western hemisphere.
on about hour 7, i came across this Hacienda with this amazing outdoor area and i fell in love with the natural old walls. i fell in love. then i also found this amazing white modern cement home. huge lawn…less space, but beautiful. i loved both so much and our of hundreds of homes i looked at, they were my top two. i couldnt decide. this was before i was engaged, and about a month later, i was drooling over them again and clicked on a link at the bottom of a listing that said check out our other listing….so i clicked, and YOLO my life was complete….yep you guessed it, the other house i loved was ON THE SAME GROUNDS & OWNED BY THE SAME COUPLE. newsflash! it was a sign and my dream place all together in one space. i was over the moon and it was decided. all our friends could stay there, it would be amazing for photos and was actually my fantasy come true combining old but then also having photos of white and modern. God is real. so naturally, i reached out to the owner and told her my story and asked if they at all allow weddings…because i could not let my dreams continue to build if they dont allow events on site. she wrote back, was amazing….and said YES. it was literally my dream.
WHAT WAS IMPORTANT FOR MEXICO
- HELLA REMOTE // we wanted it to be just us. no one else, no other resorts. just our people. it must be remote and private.
- PEOPLE STAY ON SITE // this was doubly important. i know that even with destination weddings, when people are all staying at different hotels, you actually dont see people that much other than the events. it becomes a little vacay for the attending couples, which is nice, but we wanted everyone to be together all the time. wake up together, go to bed together, and get some serious serious quality time. we got that, and it was the best thing evurrr.
- GORGINA #OBV // I mean it had to be gorgeous, and one million times photo worthy. i was not interested in decor, flowers or a bunch of shit to set up …..so the place had to be the shining star. all you have to do is show up and thats your decor. done and done. im actually a lazy person if i dont care about it, so since i knew i could care less about decorating….i knew the place itself had to naturally be beautiful so we were good to go.
- SOMEWHERE SPECIAL TO US // we’d been traveling to the Tulum area since the first year of our relationship and had kinda become ‘our place’ so it seemed so perfect that the place we found was in that general area. I’m not really a beach and ocean person…so it didnt feel us at all to have a beach wedding…hence, lets go inland to Merida.
THE DAYS OF GLORY
so when we first got engaged, we came up with the idea about doing a multi day event. when we were in Tulum, i had my wedding notebook and we got down to designing the days….i wanted this to be an event, not just about the wedding but about all the days. we wanted to do the wedding basically first, no build-up…arrive, do it…and then wind down and relax the rest of the week. a little opposite of how people usually do it. we also had our date of FEBRUARY 11th, which was the day we met, the date we got engaged and then naturally the date of our wedding. we only have to remember one date and its Feb 11th.
I’m big into themes (hence every party i’ve ever planned has had a proper name & theme) and so naturally we were going to have themes for the wedding. #duh. here’s how the days panned out.
FROM USA TO WELCOME DAY
our guests took a shuttle from Cancun to our wedding house in Merida and arrived ready to rock and roll. the weather was absolutely perfect that week and we were blessed with perfect sun, but not kill-me-im-dying-its-so-hot-out temps. We had welcome bags prepared and on everyone’s bed with some goodies and a guide to the week. people laid out, tanned, had some beers and then got all ready for the WELCOME PARTY. since we had such a huge area to work with, we wanted to get use out of all the land, so we set up the welcome dinner on the huge lawn with lights over head. it was the best.
WELCOME NIGHT BONUS: we had a Mariachi Band play while we drank and hung out before the dinner, and it was such a fun thing to do and nothing else says WELCOME TO MEXICO BITCHES better than mariachi.
WELCOME NIGHT BONUS #2: It was Quinn’s Birthday that she shared with us and so we had our chef make her a birthday cake (strawberry champagne cake) and surprised her with it after dinner! it was so fun. she and I threw huge joint themed birthday parties in college since we’re a week apart…so her birthday has always been special to me!
ALL WHITE WEDDING
i didnt care about a lot, but i cared about the feeling of the wedding. and what you wear really influences the aura and feeling, so the ALL WHITE ATTIRE could not have been a better decision. people really got into it and it photographed so damn beautifully. the wedding day itself was a dream. obviously. but i mean really really a dream. we had a rough schedule for the day, but i wanted everything to just feel like we were going from one thing to the next NATURALLY. once the day got going, i never once looked at a clock. we were all there, we had all night, thats all we needed to know. there’s no way to write about it or describe, but the day just seemed like a movie. there were no “snafu’s” there were no stressed moments, i truly had the best day of my life and was surrounded by my nearest and dearest friends. it was incredible to really feel like we enjoyed every single moment, never rushed, never feeling like we had to get to the next thing, we truly got to be in every moment and that was absolutely a memory i’ll never forget.
FAVORITE MOMENT: getting bomb ass shots with my ladies. we didnt take one sorority pose, just the baddest bitches here to take the town. the look of my girls came thru big time, and i was so happy we got an art piece of us. my closest friends.
FAVORITE MOMENT: maybe the best moment of the entire day was before the ceremony, guests were seated, we’d just had pre-ceremony cocktails and alcoholic popcicles (YES!) and the bridal party was all waiting to line up….perfectly so, one of CJ and I’s favorite songs came on…and we were all standing in a circle, I went around to each person and said thank you for being here, hugged em, and got to look in their eyes….by the end it was completely overwhelming, i was in tears, all these people came so far for us and we were THERE in that moment. it was incredible. everyone was snapping and CJ and I danced in the middle of the circle to the song….it couldnt have been done better if it was planned. it was completely spontaneous and just definitely my favorite moment of the day because it was so real and so overwhelming to be surrounded by so much love. i’ll never forget that moment.
FAVORITE MOMENT: after we kissed, we had the mariachi band come right around the corner and start playing music as we were announced. it was so happy and fun and a little surprise. they then led us in a train all the way down the grass to the cocktail hour. it was so fun, to look back and see all our friends following up behind….i loved that moment. during cocktail hour we had a caricature artist there to paint a portrait of everyone (i guess we DID have a wedding favor) so they could take it home. it was so fun to see everyone’s portrait.
FAVORITE MOMENT: sorry but this includes nudity and beyonce. if only those two were hand in hand. during the end of teh night, we were dancing and “WHO RUNS THE WORLD” came on, and it of course ended up being all girls on the dance floor. now, i dont know if you know….but i LOVE to dance. in that moment, when the song came on, i was blessed by the beyonce gods and somehow became possessed by her. the song turned into one of my best performances of my life and had moments of all of us girls screaming hands in the air and me dancing up front like it was truly my beyonce moment. even tonhya had her chin on the ground at my possession (that girl can dance and if she was impressed by ME, then you know something was going on)….i ended up on the ground, my top came off, it was hilarious and just one of the most joyous girl filled moments – it was the best. im glad there was no go-pro or video of this…because i never want to know anything else than what i feel in my heart – which was – i WAS beyonce that night.
The Wedding Day was incredible. i’ve said that. all my experience in the wedding world for so long helped me so much, be able to craft a day where we got to enjoy each moment, and look around and see only those we love the most in the world. done and done. my life is complete.
SWIM, SMACK & SUPPER aka Hangover Day
meet me at the pool. lets not go anywhere. cool. we woke up when we wanted, had breakfast prepared and met by the pool for a sun day. worked off the alcohol and basically replayed every moment from the day before. we knew that some people might not get back to the area maybe ever or for a while, so we wanted to make sure we got off-site and showed them Merida at least once. so we got a shuttle for the group to the best place ever – Apoala – for a kickass dinner in the cutest square. people had chocolate margerita’s and snacked on mezcal and crickets (yes, the bug) and just had such a great night all dolled up.
(iPhone Photos below)
FAVORITE MOMENT: the pinatas! we had picked out some pinatas in the city market earlier that week and filled them with alcohol and goodies, so we hoisted them up and gave everyone a spin. it actually started off weird & polite and i was like oh no is this going to be a dud of an activity…..but then people started getting into it and falling and completely missing it and it was hilarious.
ASCEND, SWIM & FILM
The last day. 4 days was perfect. by then, we were all having fun, but by 5, we were ready for some couple time, alone time…so im so glad we had all these days, but we didnt get to the point where people wanted to go home. we left on a high note. this was our adventure day! merida is home to some incredible mayan ruins and cenotes (underground rivers) so we took our crew to see the local goodness. We got to tour around Chichen Itza and then cool off in the cenotes…came home to a dinner at the house, got all packed up and said our goodbyes.
We cant wait to plan another trip to Merida and stay at Casa Sac Chich…..its truly the best place on earth and we’ll forever have incredible memories there.
OUR WEDDING ACCORDING TO MEMORY
take a peek at our favorite pictures and moments of our time in Mexico according to our memories.
Can we do it again?
Black Flowy Skirt // Nasty Gal
Black Off The Shoulder Lace Top // Nasty Gal
Welcome Party Dress // ASOS
ALL PHOTOS: Branch & Cole